semi-necessities: the rest

home improvement: we put a variable amount here every month, depending on jake's pay month to month. this category is not for window treatments (boo). it's for gas for the lawnmower, or weedkiller (still working on getting hubs on the "green" bandwagon), or maybe a little mini-furnace or something this winter. needs more so than wants.

gifts: $10/month. we really don't have that many people with whom we exchange gifts. truthfully we are more about experiences and time together than material things (that few people really need, and just end up in a goodwill or re-gift box or the trash -- if we're honest). we set an approximate $15 spending limit on gifts. basically this is for birthdays or random occasions that come up throughout the year (of course there are times when we spend more; $15 is a guideline).

christmas: may seem redundant, but this one is for christmas gifts. we put $10/month here. but this also covers any christmas decor we may find we need. i know, not a true need, but something might come up. like maybe christmas card postage. or we may want to throw an impromptu holiday social thing. obviously this amount won't cover very much; but we want to have a little money available just in case.

medical care: we put $5/month into this category. this is purely for routine care. co-pays, prescriptions, etc. i have a little money in an HSA left over from a previous job, so we are using that for now (fyi: every month they charge a $1 service charge and take it out of your account. may want to keep an eye on that if you have one you're not using). we're working on transitioning to more homeopathic...stuff? so this may go to help purchase essential oils, flower essences, etc. in the future.

dolly: our sweet princess. our baby. how we love her. but not more than $30/month. we estimated this would cover vet visits, and food, and occasional grooming. jake has been dabbling in her grooming recently, so that will save some. the first time we bought basically the cheapest food available. but now that we have had some time, we will likely replace that brand with something more natural (if it's not a million dollars). we also may try to get by with every other year vet visits. or something. we're not trying to invest in this dog by any means... we just want to love her and give her a good home and life (she was a rescue).
update: found some rachael ray natural dog food at food lion. didn't really read the label but i'm going to assume it's truly natural...and it wasn't that much more than any other dog food! there were also some all-natural treats - several options - that i picked up too

so that finishes up our semi-necessities! next we will look at wants, and ways we save on them. as always, questions are welcome :)

semi-necessities: insurance

*i wrote this a few days ago, before oct. 1...i will make some changes based on obamacare (what i know if it right now)

we thought life insurance would be more than we can afford, but it's actually not that bad. and we realized that the more in debt we are, really the more we need it. jake's insurance covers what we still owe on the house, and my student loans, and roughly one year of his salary, and a little extra (we rounded up). so if something were to happen to him tomorrow, i would be more than covered. i would have no more debt, be able to give him a nice funeral, and take some time off work without worrying about anything. since we live on jake's salary, with our debt out of the way i'd then be able to live on mine. i'd probably be able to still work only part-time (this would be most important to us if we had kids). it's making me sad to think about all this! but it's the reality. my insurance would cover my student loans, a funeral, and a little extra. since my salary pays for debt only, basically he would be wiping out what he would otherwise have had to cover on one less salary. if we had kids, our moms/grandmas would likely be able to cover childcare, so that wouldn't be an additional cost.

sorry to seem morbid. but after looking at all that, i am once again so glad we have life insurance. we pay about $64/month for both of us. mine is a 30 year term policy. but in 30 years my loans will be paid off anyway. the majority of jake's is a 30 year as well, but again, at that time the house and student loans will be non-issues. jake does have a little in a lifetime policy -- it would cover about a year of his salary. so that's the life insurance.

because i work part-time, we do purchase my health insurance. it is beyond outrageous what it would cost to add me to jake's; i would literally be working to pay for my insurance. so anyway. we have the super duper cheap-o plan from blue cross blue shield. it doesn't even cover maternity costs, but i guess obamacare is going to change all of it anyway? but i'll just talk about the way it is right now. i think my deductible is about $5000, with a maximum out of pocket of $8000. i happen to know that we qualify for financial aid at our local hospital. so if something awful happened, we would first apply for that. it would knock off about 50% of the bill (from my estimations and the info given on their website). NOT that anyone should plan their lives around a handout -- but we are talking worst-case scenario here. anyway, we would then take out our "emergency medical" amount in our savings, and if we still owe, we could tap into our IRAs. it's kind of scary to think about. but the truth is that i'm very healthy, and have no propensity for anything right now, so a high deductible plan is fine. we really could even raise it. on sept. 30 i received a letter from blue cross blue shield. they automatically chose a plan for me for next year that is similar to the one i have currently. it is simply unaffordable. i have been unable to get on the marketplace, but from what bcbs is telling me, since i am eligible to be added to jake's insurance, that negates my eligibility for any subsidies? which is pretty devastating for us. otherwise i would have been eligible for at least one (everyone under 400% of the poverty level) and probably the other (under 250% of the poverty level). i have chosen a bcbs "catastrophic" plan that looks like it would be fine - this is only an option for those under age 30. i am anxious to get into the marketplace to see what other options i have. so anyway, just keep in mind that our health insurance mindset/planning is now different than when i originally wrote this.

so there's insurance. not so much about ways to save, but more some important things to consider when looking at insurance. hope it's helped :)

how we save on necessities: clothing

i will start off by saying that for about 99% of us, this no longer is a necessity. we have clothes. some of you have kids, and they grow and need other clothes. new clothes, not necessarily. new to them, yes. but i will go into all of that.

hand-me-downs are awesome. ideally, i would love to have a few girlfriends who could get together and swap clothes as we get tired of them, or change sizes, or whatever. because we all have everything we need, and at this point it's about wants. i shop at goodwill and consignment stores for clothes for us, but again, those are all wants. we are actually moving toward a minimalist approach to our clothing (in addition to other areas of our lives), which means we only have a few of each type of clothing. normally people wear about 20% of their wardrobe 80% of the time. so we opted to just own the 20%.

in order to really master the art of thrift store dressing, you have to go regularly. some days you will leave with nothing. some days you will find 20 things. there is plenty of brand name, in-fashion clothing to be found at places like goodwill, and especially at consignment stores (but go to thrift stores first - they are cheaper). then there are those rare, fun, vintage goodies that everyone will wish they could "pull off" too :)

we budget $5/month for clothing. it would be fun to budget more, and maybe we can in the future. but truly we don't need any more. that amount is basically for new underwear when ours all have holes and can no longer be worn. so whenever i buy "new" clothes (rarely for me anymore does that actually mean new!), it comes from any additional spending/fun money i may have.

reading over this, we sound pretty hobo-esque. ha. but it all ties into cutting our expenses to the bare minimum in order to get out of "slavery" (the biblical description of debt/owing anything to anyone).

investing

whenever i talk about investing, i feel like it comes across as though we have loads of money. well, we don't. you can invest regardless of your income. we choose to do it because we are able to right now, and we know there may come a stage in life (like, when we have a million kids we're trying to feed) that we are unable to continue doing so. so here are my suggestions.

if your company offers to match contributions to your 401k, DO IT. do the max amount they will match. this is free money. the more you contribute at a younger age, the better off you will be. dave ramsey has some chart that shows if you invest x amount from ages 20-30, and never again, it is exponentially better than investing 2x from ages 50-60. the longer you let your money grow, the more you will have.

we have an edward jones man. while we know a bit about everyday finances, we know nothing about investments. so basically we told him that we want to put a certain amount back every month (which is not very much), and he handles where that goes.

to be completely honest, i'm kind of torn on the issue of investing. i strongly feel that as a christian, i should depend on God to provide. i know He will provide for my needs. and jake and i are not the type to desire to go on extravagant world adventures in our old age. also, the idea of "retirement" is really not biblical. so for us, on one hand, investments are basically savings that are doing something (growing) rather than sitting around in a bank. they are something we could use should an emergency arise. on the other hand, jake may have to stop working at a certain age because of health reasons. he's very healthy, and so is his whole family, but with powerlifting, at some point his joints or something may decide they're no longer happy with him.

to summarize: we don't invest because we want a luxurious retirement; we invest because we feel it's a wise way to save our money for whatever the future holds. we invest through edward jones, contributing a certain amount every month for now. if your employer matches, you should contribute to your 401k. hope this has helped :)

tithing

i am not going to attempt to persuade you to begin tithing, or tithe any more or less than you already do. actually, that last phrase was incorrect. "tithe" literally means "a tenth". so if you are a christian, and you desire to tithe, but you only give 2%...well, you're not tithing. but i digress.

jake and i have always tithed, but only recently have we been convicted that we were doing it wrong. we have always gotten a paycheck and given 10% of that paycheck to our local church. but really, we weren't tithing on our income. we were tithing on our take-home. you know the whole "give to God what is God's and to caesar what is caesar's"? well, caesar was getting a whole lot more from us than God was! so we decided to begin tithing on our gross pay. but then we thought "how in the world can we afford to do that?" we had trimmed our budget down so far. but we prayed, and we crunched, and we just decided that we would do it, even if we couldn't see how it could possibly work. and you know what? it works just fine.

because we operate on a zero-based budget (from jake's income), we needed a specific dollar amount to allocate to our tithe. so we looked at the past six months of his pay, chose the highest amount, then rounded up. just to be safe. and that is the dollar amount we give. so yes, technically it's more than 10%. but guess what? we are told to tithe, as christians. we aren't told to only tithe, but we are told to at least tithe.

i challenge you to pray about how He would have you handle your finances. and if you're mad at me and still think i know nothing about you...you're invited to dinner. we'll pull out the checkbook registers. and i will show you what it looks like to not be able to afford to give any more, but do it anyway.